Hello my doves.
Temporary hiatus over…dealing with life is kinda difficult non? But alas, we gotta do what we gotta do.
How are you all?
Amazing and filled with positive energy I hope? Cooler than the frosting on my cupcakes is what I am.
I’ve been reading about this alot really. My eyes just happen to be drawn to these articles about friendships and living life and circles and I figured, it’s a sign. I’ll write about it and see how that goes. So, here we are.
Happy July my doves.
A circle is defined in the dictionary of the English language as:
cir·cleˈsərk(ə)l/nounnoun: circle; plural noun: circles; noun: cir.; noun: circ.a round plane figure whose boundary (the circumference) consists of points equidistant from a fixed point(the center).
It can also be defined by “us new-age kids” as the people who you surround yourself with…which coincidentally, is also in the dictionary as follows:
**This is not turning into English 101 so please, calm your body organs.
Jim Rohn said that You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.
Like I said, I’ve been reading all about company lately. Pretty interesting and eye-opening articles that are bookmarked, read and consequently deleted or forgotten.
To figure out your circle, you need to clear up a couple queries:
~Who are You?
You know in order to make friends, you have to sell yourself to someone in a certain way. We all know about first impressions right? The impression you give off, determines who gets roped into the attraction game of friendship.
I attended a class that talked about the 30 second elevator pitch. Basically, you’re in a corporate environment and you happen to get onto the same elevator as the CEO of the company. With an average of 30 seconds till you get to your floor or their floor, what information can you give up to leave a lasting impression? A friendship basically starts on the same grounds I guess. You have a few seconds of eyeing each other up before even one word leaves your mouth…Will what spews from your mouth be enchanting enough to drag people into your life or repel them?
How do you culture the right circle? Actually, how do you culture the right anything? Know Yourself first….or rather, know your 4 selves as I had stipulated in an earlier post, HERE. The beginning of a union starts with one person; that person needs to at least have a semblance of themselves before getting into the union.
~What type of energy do you project?
This goes hand-in-hand with the “Knowing yourself”.
If you constantly think negative or do negative things, then you attract that exact energy towards yourself. Ever wonder why sometimes when you feel pushed beyond the threshold of what you can acceptably handle, and you think about not being able to succeed, you start to notice the little things the people in your circle do that lead them and are now leading you to a certain end? Sorry, did that make any sense? In simpler terms, negative attracts negative just as positive attracts positive…*ignoring all you physics majors…life isn’t physics bro. Don’t give me that opposites attract narrative.*
When you’re positive, more so in your thoughts, you start to notice the compliments, you start to take in the brightness of the sun even when there is an absence of warmth, you begin to realize that there’s more than enough things in the lives of those in your circle that you need to appreciate more often.
Also, you realize and can clearly identify what you want from a friendship and what your circle wants from you.
~Short term? Long term? Term?
What are your short term goals? What are your long term goals? Where do you see yourself in five years?
Sorry, I was watching Think Like A Man today and these lines are stuck in my head.
Any who, realize that some circles have a shorter lifespan than others. It’s always up to you to figure out just what that span is. I’ll take the example of guys who drink. You have probably changed drink-circles enough times, because at one point or another you realize that hey! this is not one to last for after this round, or after this period.
Always know the lifespan.
I’m a friend lover. I tend to insist that once were friends, you can’t get rid of me. I’ll be around you in whatever capacity. You can’t start something with the notion that it won’t last because now that you’ve sent it out to the universe, then it won’t last. It’s like doing an exam and thinking about how you’ll fail, well it’s no surprise when you do fail even though you had made the effort to study. Your mindset controls everything you do.
Always figure out when it’s time to sever ties even when your heart doesn’t feel up to the task. You don’t sit in a sinking ship because you know you can hold your breath under water.
This is a multi-part kind of post.
A circle holds so much information. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket they say. >>Irrelevant maybe<<
In the meantime, here’s that lion king jam that gives you all the good vibes:
***The Circle of Life***
From a cool little corner of Nairobi,
with love and love and friendly vibes galore,